If we can be courageous, one more time than we are fearful;
If we can be trusting, one more time than we are anxious;
If we can be cooperative, one more time than we are competitive;
If we can be forgiving, one more time than we are vindictive;
If we can be loving, one more time than we are hateful…
We will have moved closer to the next breakthrough in our evolution.
If we can be courageous, one more time than we are fearful;
I was incredibly touched listening to Caroline Casey tell her story of how living without sight gave her the vision to follow her dreams. What if each and every one of us living with neurological or physical diversities lived into the opportunity to find what is really true within ourselves, not just what some test or some doctor tells us about our situation. What limitations we believe about ourselves could we challenge?
Caroline presents a truly strengths-based approach to understanding what it means to live with a disability. What if disability didn’t mean “not-able” but simply meant, “different way of being”? What if disability was seen as a strength, a valued and unique perspective, that benefited the greater good? What would be different in your life if you valued your differences as much as you valued what is the same?
Working with kids, adolescents, and adults with neurological and physical diversity (I prefer this term over disability) I never cease to be in awe of the amazing strength, skills, talents, and approaches to life my clients have. I feel blessed every day to see and learn things from different perspectives than my own. What is hard to see is now defeated the kids, teens, adults, and families feel after years of feeling like they don’t fit into the system. Quickly the biggest challenge, even bigger than the diversity/disability issue, is the lack of self-esteem that so frequently happens living with physical or neurodiversity in a world that doesn’t always value these perspectives. Caroline is a woman who found the strength to believe in herself, despite her physical challenges. Caroline found her strength and her purpose BECAUSE of her diversity and challenges. What would you do if you took your challenges and found the strengths within them?
So I will end here and let you watch Caroline from the link below. In the words of Caroline Casey, “if you truly believe — and I mean believe from the bottom of your heart — you can make change happen. And we need to make it happen, because every single one of us — woman, man, gay, straight, disabled, perfect, normal, whatever — every one of us must be the very best of ourselves. I no longer want anybody to be invisible. We all have to be included. And stop with the labels, the limiting — losing of labels. Because we are not jam jars; we are extraordinary, different, wonderful people.” Excerpted from Caroline Casey’s TEDtalk: Looking Past Limits
You would upgrade to first class if you had the opportunity to, you will upgrade your home, your wardrobe, and get your 30,000 mile check ups on your car. You likely get your yearly physical to determine how to update your lifestyle and medical program, but what are you doing to upgrade your relationships, your family, and yourself?
Our brains are capable of profound change no matter how old we are. On a basic neurological level change means creating new pathways and getting rid of the old. The saying, “Use it or lose it” wholeheartedly applies to the brain as well as the physical body. The pathways you use in your daily life become strong, and those that you don’t use become week, or seemingly non-existent.
This is extremely pertinent when it comes to relationships, those with ourselves and with others. These relationships are based on some really early programming that began even before you were born. Often our early experiences cause us to limit ourselves, our belief in what we are capable of, and our capacity to be completely present in our relationships. Perhaps we feel we have to be the caretaker, or perhaps it feels as though it would never really be safe to let someone into the heart. Perhaps we are our own worst enemy, defeating ourselves before we even get out of the gate.
Although traditional talk therapy can sometimes help in changing these patterns, sustainable and lasting change in our neurochemistry is more available when a top-down AND a bottom-up treatment approach is used. Talk therapy is in the top-down category, meaning, you are using your thoughts to change your feelings and experiences physically within your body. A bottom-up approach uses the body and the sensations to discover a new way of being within the body and the mind. When these two are combined, you are able to speak the language of the body as well as the brain at the same time. This is the place where the most profound updates are initiated, where the upgrades in neurological software can provide lasting changes in the ways we relate to ourselves and those we are in relationship with. Think about it, you would never even think of using computer software that is 30 years old today, so why would we want to resign to using outdated circuitry within our brains?
The TARA Approach is the most effective integrated top-down AND bottom-up system I have found, and I use it successfully in my counseling practice. The TARA Approach uses simple and effective acupressure-like techniques along with targeted dialogue to update the entire mind-body system. What consistently amazes me about the TARA Approach is that the shifts that happen within the body and the mind are so much more sustainable than those I see with traditional top-down therapy, or bottom-up approaches such as massage or acupuncture. The TARA Approach is an evidenced-based practice (meaning we’ve got the published research that shows that it works!!) that puts your full potential back within reach. Stay tuned to this blog to learn more about the TARA Approach and ways you can use it immediately to begin updating and upgrading your neurochemistry system. It is time for you to live your full potential!!
For more information on this new paradigm of sustainable health care please check out the TARA Approach website link on the right hand side-bar. For more information about Deborah, her practice, upcoming trainings, and lectures, please check out her website, also listed above on the right side bar. Feel free also to email me if you have questions, firstname.lastname@example.org.